>Look, one can have a real meaningful relationship with someone without bedding them.

I have yet to disagree with you there :-) However, I think the only reason a couple should abstain is if at least one of them is simply not in the mood, or just doesn't like to have sex. That should be enough to not have sex. Confusing the issue with "proper behaivor" or "sin" is a mistake.

Hmmmmm. We've (I've) beat this one to death. There's got to be something else controversial out there...