>>I do not allow anyone to smoke in my car or home. We went to a friends wedding and someone asked if we could give her a ride to the reception, which we agreed. About half way across the Bay Bridge, our passenger asked, "Is it alright if I smoke"? We were traveling at the speed limit and traffic was a bit heavy as usual. There is no place to stop or park along the bridge. I said, "Sure! I will stop here and let you out"! I could see the white of her eyes grow and that was the end of her cigarette fit.
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>1) My eyes would go the same had you done this to me. A simple, civilized, "no" would be quite enough. Sarcasm would work only once, because there'd never be a second time.
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>2) In my car, there's only one rule about smoking: any anti-smoking propaganda will is forbidden. It is simply not safe to try it, because the driver becomes annoyed and unreliable. Least that may happen is that the radio would suddenly become very loud.
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>3) I don't have fits. I've been regularly having 4-6 hour rides with a guy who is pretty much like you in this respect - no expression is bad enough when smoking is concerned. Actually, I've used him as a unit of measure of anti-smoking sentiment. Never had a problem - there was no smoking in his car, OK. I can easily pause for hours, no big deal.

Dragan;

I do not feel I have to support anyone’s addiction or need to smoke. I was not being sarcastic. Some people could care less if you say, “No, please do not smoke”! I have had smoker’s blow cigar and cigarette smoke in my face when making such requests.

Had my passenger wished, I would have gladly stopped on the Bay Bridge. If smoking was really that important to a fellow human being then I am perfectly willing to comply with that persons wishes while still respecting my own.

Tom