Kevin

I know it sticks in the craw, but my advice has to be: Let It Go. The last thing you want is to escalate things at a time when people like the manager/owner have already been told you are a "troublemaker" and now you are making "trouble" for them.

We don't have all the details but if you were barred after a terse exchange with a member with whom you had a dispute over a different matter which is unlikely to be settled amicably, your best bet is to minimise it with the manager. Shrug. The other fellow owed you money (or whatever). You raised it with him gently in the congenial atmosphere of the club. You did not realise he was so sensitive about it or that his response would be to get you banned. IOW show that you are a reasonable party who deserves a chance. Say you enjoy the club, have always fitted in, want to come back, want to JOIN. Obviously you have no intention of stirring up the other fellow or anybody else. If there is nothing else to it, a membership cheque and some appreciation for the excellent club will form your best argument. Once you get back in, what "he said or she said" is irrelevant as long as you keep your nose clean; so you can afford to be lovely to the staff.

Above all, Act Reasonable; do and say nothing to reinforce the bad rep you must have been given to get you banned. I realise it can be hard when your reputation has been maligned, but don't go off trying to win battles that will lose you the war!


Regards

JR