Hey Allen,
I'm not sure I exactly follow where you're going but I think you might want to take a look at the ListIndex property of the listbox. Setting it to 3 will highlight the 3rd item, setting it to 5 the 5th, and so on. Also, if you would like nothing to be selected you can set ListIndex to 0.
hth,
Jim Duffy
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