>Let me guess, the shouting and banging all ocurred during his teenage years? :o) I think the entire teenage years are meant to slowly start parents in the separation process so they don't have too much anxiety when their child goes off to college. :o)
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Actually, no. Some of it happened then, but our toughest period with Solomon was middle-schoolish. He was having a very hard time in school (socially, not academically) and so we saw lots of issues at home.

The toughest thing with him high-school-wise was the idiocy that school started at 7:30 AM, so he had to be up obscenely early. He's never been a morning person, and that just made things worse. If he had had the option of going to school at, say, 9:30 instead of 7:30, his teenage years would have been far less turbulent (and probably even more productive than they were).

All that said, the summer before he went off to college, he did drive me nuts. And I did assume it was normal separation.

Tamar