>Second reply. Ok, I found it. You said:
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>Some here urge Naomi to blame herself. That's their way of supporting her, but the message is not lowering her stress at all. On the contrary, it is increasing her stress. Instead, they should show empathy and tell her that this twitter is a b#%$^d indeed. Choose her side, show her that she's not the only one who thinks it was unjust.
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>That's pretty black and white. We should simply take her side and derogate the other person. All I tried to point out is that if the other person is not a b#%$^d indeed, then it's doing everyone a disservice, Naomi included, to behave that way. If I misunderstood what you said in that paragraph, I really don't know how.

Even if Naomi is playing the victim role (not my opinion), even then it may be the case that this twitter is doing wrong. It are the details (in the case at hand) that matter.
The problem with my advice to 'tell her that this twitter is a b#%$^d indeed' is that it is indeed probably too harsh (and derogating) for this person. Allow me to change my advice to tell her that this twitter is thus behaving like a b#%$^d indeed.

>And by the way, I never once told her to blame herself. I just told her to get on with her life.