>>Ok, then. Let me ask straight out. How long is long enough? How much moping over it is enough moping? Is there never a point where the person (Naomi, if you like) should simply say, "Ok, I guess that's how it's going to be", and just get on with life?
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>Let's see what the future brings if we all do this: Each time a member here 'complains' about someone, we first and for all show some empathy and we might even agree this someone behaves like a b#$%&d. And only afterwards we give some mild advice. We might assume there's a lack in the set of skills, a partially wrong knowledge of the real world and/or a misconception about what's just and unjust.
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>Maybe we'd conclude eventually that Naomi too 'moped' less and less overtime.

An there lies exactly what I was talking about earlier - the cultural (I assume) difference where you feel this person owes anything to Naomi. It's not anti-social behavior, it's not being mean and targeting her maliciously. Something made this person feel uncomfortable conversing with Naomi - where is the line that dictates where he owes Naomi an explanation?