>>>Ok, then. Let me ask straight out. How long is long enough? How much moping over it is enough moping? Is there never a point where the person (Naomi, if you like) should simply say, "Ok, I guess that's how it's going to be", and just get on with life?
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>>Let's see what the future brings if we all do this: Each time a member here 'complains' about someone, we first and for all show some empathy and we might even agree this someone behaves like a b#$%&d. And only afterwards we give some mild advice. We might assume there's a lack in the set of skills, a partially wrong knowledge of the real world and/or a misconception about what's just and unjust.
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>>Maybe we'd conclude eventually that Naomi too 'moped' less and less overtime.
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>An there lies exactly what I was talking about earlier - the cultural (I assume) difference where you feel this person owes anything to Naomi. It's not anti-social behavior, it's not being mean and targeting her maliciously. Something made this person feel uncomfortable conversing with Naomi - where is the line that dictates where he owes Naomi an explanation?

If I'd not reply to this message, you'd perhaps start speculating about the reason or the cause. But you'd for sure do that, if I'd add you to my twit filter and you'd find out only much later. Perhaps this is a better one: If Tracy or Mike Beane would twit you. Or an even better one: If Mike Beane would twit Tracy. And all without any explanation. Afterall, we owe nobody anything ever. Never?

I'm not suggesting here that we always owe others any explanation. But someone who does not give an explanation should not feel offended if that implies that others start to think negatively about him/her. We might also speculate that this someone has a lack in the set of skills, a partially wrong knowledge of the real world and/or a misconception about what's just and unjust.