>>>If I am reading you correctly, that you have a gay son, then that does alter my perception of you, yes. If there is a God, this must be one of His little pranks. By your own words you still consider it abnormal, make gay jokes, and say you wouldn't tolerate it in your home. (That would be his home, too, wouldn't it?) And repeat that homosexuals are not entitled to marriage. I'm not going to go on arguing with you, I just find your position even more curious now.
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>>In my home, I'm the dictator. I would not let my unmarried daughter have a friend over for the night for a fling any more than I'd let my son do the same. It's not his home, its mine! I've been divorced for 10 years now, and while my sons were staying with me last summer, I had noone over to the apartment while they were here. It works both ways in my mind. Uncomfortability goes both ways....
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>I do agree with that up to a point. Just be careful with that dictatorship, especially if your kids have no say in the matter. It will strain your relationship with them. I speak from experience when I say kids who are locked down tight run away as fast as they can when they get the chance. Personally I want to know my daughters until I am a very old man.


Well its all in the way you raise them. My sons know when they come here to stay for a while, that there will be:

no smoking in the house
no noise of any kind after 10pm
no parties unless I approve
no guests unless I approve
no illegal substances
etc, etc, etc.

They have known this since young children and have no problem accepting my rules. When I'm in their house, I obey their rules also, becuase it is their house. If I don't like the rules, I can get a motel room.

BTW, I like getting wisdom on children from someone who, in my opinion, is being very destructive in his own relationship. My kids are 28, 30 and 32 and we have a good relationship. They just know what to expect and so do I.