I do not want to go back to bickering with you.

I was merely stating an opinion.

But I find it somewhat incredible that you consider a home not the child's because they don't pay the mortgage. Many people can live in a house and all of them rightly consider it their home. It's not all about money!

Actually, part of it is about money. John said that he didn't want his gay son behaving in a certain manner in his home. John's son can consider John's house to be his home, but if he doesn't help to pay the bills, he has to live by John's rules.

When I was married to my second husband, his oldest daughter was in college and came home with her chin pierced. When I told her that I didn't like it, she told me that I didn't have to. I said "That is where you are wrong - unless you are telling me that you are self-supporting and no longer require my financial assistance to go to college". She refused to remove the stud from her chin and I refused to contribute to her college education anymore.

When you are depending on someone else to pay your way, you have to live by their rules.