No I meant would you have been prepared to quit if she was the main earner and wanted to carry on working ?.

We're getting into bigger hypotheticals....that's a major change, which means other aspects of our marriage might be very different as well. That's not a cop-out, but surely you realize that a major hypothetical also means other things are different.

But to answer your question....I'm a full-time contract trainer and I write curriculum....my job is kind of a strange, niche-type job. Gwen and I would have had a conversation about who felt stronger about continuing their career. Her career is such that it was an all-or-none...you either work or you don't work. Mine is one where I can drop back to part time. So I probably would have dropped to part-time. I rather doubt I would quit out-right., but I'd drop down to a low enough involvement that I'd be able to take care of the baby while she worked her regular job.

Now, if the situation were reversed, if my wife were the contractor, and I had the full-time "regular" job....I'd understand if she wanted to reduce but not eliminate her hours, because I'd know it was important to her to keep a few toes in the water....and I'd make adjustments to help her.

As you have kids, I'm sure you'd acknowledge the same thing - that these things are all about planning, communicating...and making adjustments.

The bottom line is that these decisions require a great deal of consideration about factors beyond gender....every family situation is different...and the decision would have been our decision. And that's why I get sick and tired of snotty, loud-mouth, idiotic feminists who have knee-jerk reactions that if a woman decides to leave her job or curtail her hours and stay home with the baby, it's automatically a "sexist husband" who pushed her into it. (And in fairness, in the reverse situation, anyone making anything beyond a good-natured "Mr. Mom joke" would get "mommy's" steel-toed boots up their backside)