I think I've been misunderstood. He goes to public school (as I learned yesterday to 'Special Education' program). In yeshiva we have a special program once a week when old boys from this yeshiva teach boys from community. So, my older son was going to these lessons once a week for ~ 3 years now and now (starting from the beginning of this school year) my younger son also goes there. They (my kids) also go to the private Jewish school we have here.

Anyway, I got a call from the program coordinator about the time my older son started to go there whether I can give a ride to someone since his mom works at the time. I agreed and for about 3 years (or a bit less) I've been driving the kid to the place. I met his mom on several occasions. She usually calls me on Wednesday to remind to pick up her son. So, yesterday she called and told me he is not going to go there anymore and also told me lots of other things. I got so depressed after that call that I was unable to concentrate on the work anymore, I started to find out what can I do to help, etc.

I don't know if it was wise or not to call the police to check on her. Anyway, when I called last night, she was in much better mood, so we discussed again the Nia classes I attend, talked about coming Lag-Ba-Omer celebration, etc.


>Was he kicked out of the yeshiva? ( I don't think public schools have that option and I thought yeshiva was in addition to secular school. ) I think you should reach out to the rabbi of the temple associated with the yeshiva. He may not be aware of the situation or of how severely it is going to impact a family. He would also probably be familiar with other community resources to help your friend and her son.
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>It is very important that the son be correctly diagnosed. ADHD, borderline personality disorder and bi-polar disorder can all result in disruptive and aggressive behavior but they need to be dealt with very differently.
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>But first and foremost, you need to find others who are qualified to help you help your friend. Start with a rabbi, since there will be cultural connection and trust, and see what he says.
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>Good luck.
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>>>Hi everybody,
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>>>Sorry for putting this into religion section, but I am not subscribed to Chatter/Chatter.
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>>>I have a woman who was asking me to drive her son to the yeshiva where my boys go to a special program once a week.
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>>>So, I was doing her a favor and was driving him along with my sons for about 2 years.
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>>>She lives alone (as I just learned the father of the son lives about 2 hours drive and doesn't want to do anything with him).
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>>>We never observed anything unusual in the kid's behavior, he was rather polite and always thanked me for the ride.
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>>>She called me today and said that he is not going to go there anymore and told me that he got kicked out of school and she doesn't know how to handle him anymore. He has a severe case of ADHD with aggressive behavior and she is really unable to take care of him by herself any longer.
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>>>I don't know what to advise her. It is really bad situation, she is all alone, hard working mother with problematic kid.
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>>>She is suicidal as she told me.
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>>>What can be done to help her?
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>>http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
>>http://adhd.pockethotline.com/