>>Unfortunately, it was a library book and I returned it, so I don't have it here. But one process for which she showed several examples was a woman making a suggestion only to have it ignored and then a man making the same suggestion and having it adopted and the woman's original suggestion of it never recognized.
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>I have this happen to me all the time. I instead choose to reflect on how I conveyed my message and try to improve my soft skills. I'm definitely not saying that gender issues don't exist but I hope that people aren't to quick to blame sexism when instead it was a communication issue.

And I had many male friends that I could ask opinions of on my message delivery (and yes, I would actually listen to them), and when most of them are telling me there's no problem with HOW I'm saying WHAT I'm saying......maybe it's not a communication issue. It reached a point where, during one set of marathon requirements sessions, I'd ask on of my male teammates to ask questions/point out possible pitfalls/etc.

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>>A big theme was men seeing the world as conflict, while women see it as cooperation. (The book acknowledges that such generalizations don't apply to everyone, but cites plenty of research to support the generalizations.)
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>>Tamar