>You could push him into a cult, for all you know, and pat yourself on the back, and then say, well if he drinks alcohol again, we did everything we can do.
>

But Mike, no one is doing anything like that.

The fundamental issue here is that several people were suspicious (and rightly so) about whether Mike was fully committed to doing something about the problem. The message that Tamar relayed has confirmed what many feared - that he was going to come up with some excuse or some rationalization to delay/avoid dealing with the issue.