>I think that society as a whole for the past several thousand years has been this way. Better fighting skills made for survival (of self, family, tribe, nation..) but better lovemaking skills only made better pleasure and pleasure is not as important as survival in the long run.
>Humanity is, if we look at it as if it were a human, only reaching puberty (IMHO.) It has a very long way to go before it reaches a stage where humans know when to act/react intellectually and when to do so emotionally. Right now humanity in general acts/reacts emotionally whether the situation calls for it or not.

Actually, I don't see this as a dichotomy or contradiction. These two aspects of human nature have yet to unite into something bigger than the sum of the two - once we get deeper into puberty and out of it...

>My two boys (8 and 11) are typical with the kissing scenes and the fighting scenes and they also enjoy those 'Disney' style movies where kids learn that being nice has it's upside - besides kissing.

I'm wondering whether Disney is the right place... with all their "you can't be on the show if you don't look cute enough" racism. The kids may get the idea that being nice is reserved for nice looking people. Even though Disney's idea of "cute" is too artificial to look cute to me, but de gustibus non est disputandum.