Terry,
In the parent grid insert a logic field exempl. lselected, in the AfterRowChangeEvent set at .T. that record of parentdbf and all others to .F. in the refresh metod insert
thisform.grid1.setall("dynamicbackcolor", "IIF(parentdbf.lselected= .f.,rgb(255,255,255), rgb(249,255,187))", "Column")
Luigi