>Why IS it ok for men to tell women to 'Smile' all the time, yet rarely tell other men that? Is every man out there somehow the arbiter of women's attitudes?

FWIW, we also need to stop telling our sons that "big boys don't cry." Same problem, actually.

>Why IS it ok to tell girls that like playing with 'boys' toys that they're wrong wrong WRONG and should be in the 'pink' aisle? Why are toys 'gendered' anyway? Geebus Crispy! I grew up on Legos and Lincoln Logs and making models.

I was stunned when I went to buy a kid some Legos a few years back and found that, except for Duplos (the toddler kind), all the kits are gendered now. The ones aimed at boys are dark, dark, dark. What happened to airplanes and boats and generic stuff?

Tamar