>>>Everything I've ever heard indicates that in general, getting parents into the building is a win. But we should design such programs so that kids who are already "others" in some way aren't reminded once again of their otherness.
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>In fairness, there's also good evidence that kids do better in most respects if biological dad is around. Seems to me there's a tension between "inclusiveness" and normalization of paths to worse results.

My impression is that a lot of the difference in outcomes has to do with money. That is, that it's not dad per se who's the issue, but that single parent families tend to be poorer. In fact, pretty sure I just saw research that said that kids with same sex parents do just as well as kids with opposite sex parents, once you match for income.

That said, I'm certainly in favor of most kids having contact with both parents. But that's not the reality for plenty of kids and hasn't been for nearly half a century. I am opposed to systems that increase the disadvantage of those already disadvantaged.

Tamar